what are toxic behaviours?
It is important to recognize toxic behaviors and work to change them, as they can have serious consequences for both those who exhibit them and those around them.
Many unacceptable and harmful behaviors have been normalized and accepted in our society, despite the fact that they are very harmful.
Here are some examples of behaviors that we commonly consider normal, even though they are toxic:
invalidating your own or someone else’s emotions, feelings, experiences, trauma, because:
others have it worse
it was a long time ago
it wasn’t that bad
commenting on the appearance, behaviour or decisions of another person in a harmful way and calling it constructive criticism (or invalidating the importance of these comments)
disrespect for someone’s decisions—acting surprised, ridiculing, noting that someone doesn’t eat/drink/like the same things you do and urging them to do so
feeling guilty or making others feel guilty when you need/need to rest
talking about others, about their experiences, emotions, decisions, appearance—behind their backs and without their consent
agreeing to something that makes you uncomfortable
being mistreated by your parents, and accepting it just because they are your parents
Toxic behavior in relationships and relationships is much more than big arguments or jealousy. It can also be much more subtle actions that you overlook that affect the way you see yourself and the world.
Identifying these behaviors and considering whether the relationship dynamics you’re in is hurting your mental health can help you make better decisions for yourself.